Tuesday, December 14, 2010

A change in perspective

So I'm down to the last month or so of my pregnancy. I have 5 weeks until my due date and I'll admit, some days I really struggle. I've been trying to be upbeat and positive but the truth is, by the end of the day I just really hurt. My back aches so bad, my stomach feels stretched to the max, bending over is hard, picking up my kids is hard, walking up the stairs is hard, everything just feels hard. A couple of days ago I was trying to get dressed and I burst into tears because nothing fits. Nobody wants to buy more maternity clothes in their last month of pregnancy but I had to go out and buy 2 new shirts because I've outgrown everything else.

Then the other night I was having a pregnancy pity party and feeling quite miserable when Teya came in the room and asked to see my belly. I reluctantly lifted the bottom of my shirt so she could see "big baby." She began to rub my tummy and lovingly talk to "cutie cutie squishy big baby." To her delight he responded with some major rolling movements and a couple of visible kicks that made her giddy with laughter. She put her ear right against my tummy and begged him to do it again. "bump!" he nudged her ear and she erupted in laughter again. "He kicked me mom! Big baby kicked my ear!"

Her excitement was contagious and I forgot all about my pity party and got caught up in the miracle that is pregnancy. I guided her little hand to where I knew he would kick next and bump after bump she was rewarded with his energetic movements. We were both laughing so hard, it was exactly what I needed. When the movements settled down, Teya gave my belly once last hug then went to get ready for bed. My back still hurt and I still felt big, slow and tired, but I was smiling again and felt renewed energy to get through the next month carrying a very important load.

I'm grateful that my body is healthy and that I've had a healthy and safe pregnancy.
I'm grateful for my children who give me fresh perspective when I need it most.
I'm grateful for my husband who goes out of his way to make my load lighter.
And most of all I'm grateful that in a few short weeks our lives will be blessed with a baby in our home.
Thinking of that alone makes all the aches and pains seem worthwhile.


15 comments:

Cecia said...

Becca I totally feel for you! That last months just feels never-ending, it's hard to not have a pitty party every once in a while. But you are right! You have that sweet family of yours that is so grateful for this gift you are bringing into their lives! And hearing that first cry and looking into that sweet babies eyes sure makes you forget all about those aches and pains :) Good luck, sending you happy thoughts!

Rachel Murdock said...

pregnancy is a huge sacrifice and a time when we can be selfless in loaning our body to another human being. Without us, they can't survive. It's REALLY hard! But so incredibly worth it. You can do it Bec. You're almost there!

Dayton and Candice said...

You said it Becca! And I can relate 100%..Seems like yesterday with number 3 I was so uncomfortable some days I just thought "this is never-ending" and now my baby boy is 9 mon. old and started crawling on Sunday!!! I can't wait to see this baby boy!! And you are right, just have to remember our bodies are so amazing and seriously Becca, take another look at your family pictures, You are a total babe!!! I haven't seen you since what we were like 17 and you haven't aged a smidge!!!! hang in there!!! xoxo

Tara said...

Beautifully put, Becca! It's so rough at the end. You're on the last 3 miles of your marathon- so miserable and so wonderful at the same time! But you know you can do it.
I was feeling so frumpy at the end of my pregnancy, like I didn't have any decent clothes and Justin helped me feel better when he said, "I don't even know why you're bothering. I'd be down to basketball shorts and giant t-shirts every day by this point." Gotta love a guy's perspective sometimes.
So anyway, hope you can keep away from the holiday rush and sit around in some bball shorts and tshirts til the end! :)

Cam and Lohi said...

Sometimes I really wish that our kids could know exactly what they put us through in pregnancy but like what my mom always said, you never do appreciate what your parents do for you until you are one yourself. Although pregnancy can be the pits :), it's all worth it when you finally hold that little one in your arms. You couldn't imagine life without them. You're almost there Becca!!! At least the end is in sight :).

Bates Blogger said...

What a sweet little girl! And how fun that the baby totally cooperated. I can't wait to meet little baby boy Rigg!

Kristen said...

Amen to all of the above! On my worst days it helps when my boys come over to "visit" their sister and get so delighted when she sticks her foot up for them to feel. Seeing them love the baby who is causing my body such misery helps me make it through another day...and it helps that I only have five days left!!

The Peters Family said...

Sweet post, Becca!
At the end with Katie, I thought, "there's no way I was ever this big with Anna!" It was true...she was nearly 2 pounds more than Anna.
It's totally okay to have a pity party (even afterward when things still don't fit right).
You're a hot momma and I'm sure he's so excited to get here!

Naomi Hanks said...

LOVED this post Bec! Teya is such a sweet heart and what a fun experience to journal about. And no worries...you're on mile 26, just .2 to go!

Crystal said...

You are Amazing girl! In all that you do! You never take anything half way...This little guy is so blessed to be welcomed into your loving family...he must be soooo excited! Teya and Brinley are going to be great big sisters;0) Reading your post, I remember all too well the aches and pains and BIG-NESS of being pregnant! But I don't think anyone sees you as you feel. haha. You look great! Good luck with the last few weeks. And remember to take it easy, and enjoy this "down" time before baby arrives! (Although it might not seem too calm with two other kids to take care of haha)

Ayllon Planet said...

Becca you look gorgeous!! Wish we were closer I'd love to take you dinner or take the girls for you. You'll make it only a month left till show time and a quick (wonderful) shift in lifestyle for everyone:)

Erin Uda said...

Bec, you are amazing! Ditto to everything above, and if you're looking for a little help for your aching back: try a bit of yoga. The cat/cow stretch is supposed to lift the uterus up a little and give those poor back muscles a break. Do it every morning and night, right before you get into bed for about 5 minutes and hopefully you'll feel better! Love you SO much and can't wait to see that beautiful baby boy. Give yourself a big hug from us and hang in there!

http://backandneck.about.com/od/yogaforbackpain/p/yogabackpcatcow.htm

Sarah said...

Becca thanks for this post. I'm nor prego but it helped me think about my perspective in other areas of my life. How grateful I am to be a mother. It truly is the most rewarding job out there. Totally hard, but so worth it. Hang in there.

Nicole said...

Beautiful.

M. Fritze said...

You look so darling! I now wish I had more photos of me prego. It will be over before you know it! You have such a great family!!